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How we treat each other at work: The quiet power of employee relations
- Published : August 11, 2025
- Last Updated : August 29, 2025
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It all starts with a simple exchange.
It was a regular day. Thara, a marketer, messaged her teammate John about a pending document. She meant it as a gentle reminder. His reply?
"Relax, I’ve got it. You don’t have to message me twice."
That single message shifted her whole mood. What began as a normal workday suddenly felt heavier. She second-guessed herself: Was I being pushy? Did I annoy him? and carried that uneasy feeling into her next meeting.
Now imagine the same scenario playing out differently. Another teammate, Priya, once received a similar reminder and simply responded:
“Thanks for the nudge, appreciate you keeping me on track!”
That two-second reply had the opposite effect. Instead of doubt, it left the other person feeling valued and reassured that they were helping the team.
Moments like this are widespread in every workplace. A small chat, a quick comment during a meeting, or even a lack of acknowledgment are all small things that quietly shape how people feel about coming to work.
That’s what employee relations are all about.
They're not just policies, not just HR’s job. It’s about how we treat each other every day and conduct the ordinary exchanges that can either build trust or chip away at it.
What employee relations really mean
Employee relations. At first, the term might sound like more corporate jargon, something buried in HR policies. But in reality, it's actually very personal. It’s about the quality of relationships that shape how people experience their jobs every day.
It's about:
- How respected people feel in their workspaces.
- How teams support each other in times of crisis.
- How safe it is to speak up when they go through something personal.
- How we respond when things don’t go perfectly.
When these connections are healthy, everything flows more smoothly: Collaboration feels natural, trust grows stronger, and work even becomes a source of joy.
Even research backs this up. A Gallup study found that employees who have strong relationships at work are not only more engaged but also more resilient during stressful times. In fact, having even one close friend at work has been linked to higher performance and better retention. That’s the power of human connection inside organizations. It doesn’t just make people feel better; it makes the entire workplace function better.
Think about the last time your team rallied together, whether it was covering for a colleague who fell ill or helping someone who was navigating a personal crisis. Those moments of genuine support create lasting trust, the kind that no policy or handbook can ever fully capture.
The everyday habits that shape team culture
You don’t need a rule book to improve employee relations. More often, it’s the smallest daily habits that quietly build (or break) team culture.
Think about the difference between:
- A rushed “okay” versus a thoughtful “Thanks for pulling this together, it really helped.”
- Multitasking while someone speaks versus pausing, looking up, and listening fully before replying.
- Ignoring efforts versus taking a moment to say, “I saw how much time you put into that; it made a real difference.”
None of these actions take more than a few seconds. Yet over time, they add up to a workplace where people feel seen, respected, and motivated.
Researchers sometimes call this “micro-recognition”, tiny acknowledgements that compound into stronger trust and belonging. It’s not about grand gestures or company-wide shoutouts every time someone does their job. It’s about weaving respect into the everyday fabric of work.
One manager once described it this way: “Culture isn’t built in town halls—it’s built in the five-minute conversations people have after the meeting ends.” And it’s true. The everyday interactions, the quick check-ins, even the tone of an email—those are the threads that quietly weave a team together.
When kindness and acknowledgment become routine, people don’t just show up to complete tasks. They show up to contribute because they know their contributions matter.
Feedback as a form of care
Think of the best feedback you’ve received; it probably helped you grow and made you feel respected. That’s what healthy feedback looks like: It’s not a weapon, it’s a form of care.
Good feedback has a few common traits:
- It happens often, not just during annual reviews.
- It’s honest, but delivered with thoughtfulness.
- It’s focused on improvement, not blame.
Compare two scenarios:
- A designer presents a draft. The manager says, “This isn’t good. Do better.” The designer walks away confused, frustrated, and less motivated.
- Same draft, different approach: “The concept is strong, especially the color choices. One way to make it clearer might be simplifying the layout; what do you think?” Here, the designer feels acknowledged, guided, and empowered to try again.
The difference isn’t just in tone; it’s in intent. One shuts the door, the other opens it. And feedback isn’t just top-down. Peer-to-peer feedback can be just as powerful. In teams where feedback is a habit, not a surprise, people feel more confident and connected. It tells people: “I care about your work, and I want you to succeed.” That shift changes not only how people work, but how they relate to one another.
When conflicts happen (and they will)
No workplace is free from conflict. Deadlines slip, emails get misread, and tensions rise when people are stressed. The difference between average teams and strong ones isn’t the absence of conflict; it’s how they handle it.
Take this example: Two colleagues, Maya and Arjun, clashed over project ownership. Both felt they were putting in more effort, and frustration boiled over into short replies and side conversations. Instead of letting it fester, their manager brought them together for a quick reset. Each explained their perspective without interruption. What emerged wasn’t laziness or ego, it was simple miscommunication. Maya thought Arjun was responsible for the client follow-ups, while Arjun assumed Maya had already taken them on. With clarity and a shared plan, the tension dissolved.
This is how healthy teams deal with conflict:
- They talk about it rather than avoiding it.
- They clarify misunderstandings before reacting.
- They stay respectful, even when disagreeing.
Strong employee relations act like shock absorbers. Instead of collisions, conflicts become conversations. People bounce back faster because they know disagreements don’t define the relationship.
What's the manager’s role here? Setting the tone
On every team, leadership carries a quiet but powerful influence. A manager’s tone often becomes the team’s tone.
The best managers don’t just manage tasks. They shape relationships by:
- Making time to check in on their team, even during busy weeks.
- Encouraging openness, not perfection.
- Noticing the effort, not just the outcomes.
A study by Gallup has found that managers account for at least 70% of the variance in employee engagement. Put more simply, people don’t just quit companies; they often quit managers. A leader who fosters trust and respect can retain talent and inspire commitment in ways no policy or bonus scheme can.
With the right support, people don’t just do their jobs. They grow, take initiative, and support each other.
But is that enough? Definitely not. Peer relationships matter more than you think.
A lot of workplace happiness comes from the people you sit next to, call, or message daily.
That’s why peer relationships deserve more attention. Good peer dynamics lead to:
- Faster collaboration, because people trust each other.
- Shared accountability, because no one wants to let the team down.
- A stronger sense of “we’re in this together.”
It’s not about being best friends. It’s about building mutual trust, having each other’s back, and keeping things kind. A simple “I’ll cover for you while you’re out” or “Let me know if you need a second pair of eyes” builds far more trust than big team-building exercises ever could.
How do you make these connections work in a hybrid world?
With remote and hybrid work, casual moments need to be created on purpose. You don’t bump into someone at the coffee machine or chat while packing up for the day. That means connection has to be created on purpose.Things like:
- A quick “good morning” in the team chat.
- A five-minute virtual coffee catch-up with no agenda.
- Dropping a friendly emoji or GIF in a task comment to add warmth.
It may feel small, but these moments add warmth to work. They remind people: You’re not alone here.
When used with intention, technology comes to the rescue
Technology helps us stay connected, especially across locations and time zones.
Use it to:
- Keep everyone in the loop.
- Give quick encouragement.
- Make collaboration easier.
But only let technology support human connection, not replace it. A kind message still matters more than the perfect tool.
Wrapping up: You shape the culture—every day
You don’t need to lead a team or work in HR to make a difference in employee relations. In fact, most workplace culture is shaped by the people doing the everyday work through the words we choose, the tone we use, and the effort we acknowledge. You’re already making a difference through:
- Every message you send.
- Every time you listen fully.
- Every time you choose kindness when it’s easier not to.
Think back to Thara’s experience at the start of this article. A single abrupt response shifted her whole day. The opposite could just as easily have been true. One thoughtful reply, one small act of recognition, one supportive nudge could lift someone’s mood and strengthen the entire team.
So here’s a challenge. Tomorrow, try one small action. Send an extra “thank you.” Check in on a teammate. Give feedback with care. Notice the effort someone puts in.
That’s what builds employee relations. And that’s what turns a workplace into a place people love to be.
- Revathi Selvaraj
Revathi is a product marketer at Zoho Workplace. She writes about topics related to workplace collaboration, productivity, and personal development. Outside of work, she enjoys painting, cooking, and occasionally laughing at her own jokes, all while embracing the present moment.